KDU~ I understand exactly what you're talking about. It's exactly what I'm living since H left. It really keeps you in that "in love" place and magnifies all the things that you miss. Detaching is much easier with distance, but I'm not sure that that's true detachment or simply avoidance.
But whatever it is, it does make DBing a lot easier. I know when I go for 3 days without seeing H, I'm a different woman. When I see him 2 days in a row, I'm a 12year old with a crush. I'm happier, but I'm invested in having him back.
BB and Kismet have some good advice. There is no question that it's easier to handle when you're busy and active around him. Happy to see him, but too busy to slow down to his pace. And a gradual withdrawl after he gets a peek at your happy and full life is excellent advice. Now if only I would take it (my job is going to help with that).
You're doing incredibly well, and this is totally natural. I'm starting to see that self-doubt is an integral part of the process. Is it maybe a way of assessing where you are? Indulging in the lovey-doveys is maybe a way of doing a heart-check to make sure you do still want him? As long as you don't let these feelings dictate your actions, feel free to explore them and wonder about them alone or here.
