Kim, it does sound like H is really confused as to what he wants and that is probably why he is trying to reconnect more. Yes, it is certainly harder to DB when they are so in your face. Can you have things to do? Just leave. Take the dog for a walk.

When I first started doing this, I felt rude. But I realised that if I did not get out of the house I would say something I regret or just sit there in silence.

Maybe just trying taking it one day at a time. You can do this. You know you can. Take advantage of him offering to help around the house.

I am sorry that you are feeling so down, but remember "this too shall pass" Buckle up and hang in there!

Smile, it makes people wonder what you are up to!