That used to be my H's typical way of thinking...he used to constantly jump on the defensive and assume the worst.....which I have never given him reason to assume when it comes to me. It's a narcassistic pattern, where they try to get you to behave the way they "think" you will.
Personally I hate it!! I view it as a manipulation and it goes right through me. I know my H isn't actually intentionally trying to manipulate me and that makes it all the more frustrating at times. That's why I've started learning how to shut it down when it happens....I'm telling you it's effective, especially if you do it calmly and then walk away, it's important not to lose your temper...just walk away, lends more impact to what you've said.
