T - better advice, don't listen to Wes. He himself said he's harsh and jaded.
T - you're a great mom. You are the one who knows your H, do what you know is best. It may not be right in the end, but you can only do your best.
I do have to admit, Wes did bring up a good point (but don't tell him I said that). If he came back today, would you still really want him, the way he is right now? (I've been asking myself this same sort of thing lately too.)
