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I was figuring you to say..."I wish you had stayed away."




I actually missed you, Wes!

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Screw "his rules". Indicate that the restriction put on you make it difficult. You would like to have S9 call on occasion and it works both ways...he needs to be availabe too (don't put it that harshly, but explain the dilemma)



Been there, done that. Ex didn't want to be 'bothered'

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Visits may be what he needs, but it might not be what he's going to get.



S9 refuses to talk to dad on the phone now, since the phone calls have been so sporadic and the one time s9 asked for a visit, xh ignored him.

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If I decided to take a 40 day sabattical from my XW, but at the end of 7 days she crawled over broken glass to say she loved me and wanted to try again should I stick with the pact and say.."come back in 33 days"?



I do agree w/you Wes. I told myself that in the beginning of this sabbatical that I may have to break it and his last email today is begging for me to do that. I just don't want to reply in a knee-jerk reaction. He doesn't know that I am aware of a) last court date over ss14, b) problems at work and c) ow. (but I guess that's beside the point)

I am in a semi-vulnerable spot still and need to keep working on myself, so the email reply is going to remain vague.

As for s9, it's hard to separate the two. I offered visits w/covering the travel myself or meeting ex halfway, and he still refused. S9 has an email account also. I mentioned a few times to ex when the first day of school was and to call us then, he got back to me a week late and says, 'did school start yet?' What more can a gal do? If he doesn't attempt to contact or see his son, I can't force him to. But my focus is on s9 and stability. Dad is not being a stable entity at this point and I will continue to deflect as much of that as I can. I am not trying to diminish the role of fathers and I commend every male on this bb that takes that role seriously.
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