You're right, I have watched that movie so many times this summer, I should have remembered.
I do understand your points on the non custodial parent, but s9 can't talk on the phone. And ex is not encouraging any other means of communications. s9 sent him a couple of ecards to which dad did not open one for two days (and that was on fathers day) and generally ignores the contact. I've asked xh to send ecards to s9 and he doesn't.
I have my documentation in order if he does try a summons. I'm playing by ex's rules.