I'm BBBBAAAACCCCCCKKKKK!!!! was from Independence day.
Being the non-custodial parent I always see things from their perspective and it might not always apply because some fathers/mothers don't show as much interest as others. But I do not think that it's right to avoid calls and e-mails entirely in order to force your XH to see "US". It's about your/his son (by the way..he was correct to say "my son" since it is his son as well as yours. I say "my sons" as well without implying they aren't also my X's). I know this is harsh, but I think you should separate your desires for your XH from the relationship between your son and his dad. You should be doing everything you can to foster the relationship...not ignore him to force a visit. There should be phone calls in between. As you said...he could always call more than once if he really wanted to talk, but every time he does call I think you should consider that he's calling to talk to his/your son and answer accordingly.
Sorry for the browbeating...especially if undeserved, but I staunchly defend the right of a parent to talk to his child, even if he chooses to do it infrequently. If my X kept my kids from me by not answering the phone, returning calls or e-mails you can bet you'd get a lot more than just a "how's my son?". You'd get a nastigram followed by a summons.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
