WCW, you hit on exactly why confronting him immediately would be a problem. I was furious with him for saying something that in my mind was injurious to our D. How could I possibly have a normal discussion with him when I was livid and he was suicidal? (Kinda makes me want to smack the therapist for being so ridiculous.)
rottzilla, H is the one who can't remember the issue; he thought it was "settled." LOL You also made a point that I hadn't thought of. Obviously, H was in need of some nuturing, and I did walk away. And yes, I yelled at him later for expressing those feelings. Maybe just telling him that we'd have to discuss the issue some other time would help.
A few days ago he told me that I was "cold." Normally, I am extremely warm and loving. The past few months with him have been sheer torture. Since I suffer from depression too, I've had to withdraw in order to keep my sanity. He had reached a point in which he becomes wooden when I try to hug or kiss him.
I suppose he expects me to keep trying - that's what I've always done. This time, I needed to take care of myself.
married 6 years, mom of 2 struggling to make a strong family
