Re 2005
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He said he didn't know if he wanted to stay married like this. He said for 2 years I have pushed him away and made him feel like I do not live him (I love him very much


BTDT. I am your H.

Tell him it takes 6 months to a year to slowly forget the past hurts and remember the new good things and feel good about the R after you start doing things to make it better.

My reading list of what hepls
DR “Divorce Remedy” By Michele Weiner-Davis 2001
7PFMMW The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work ”John Gottman
PM “Passionate Marriage” or by David Schnarch
5LL “The Five Love Languages” Gary Chapman. Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
UL “Undefended Love" by Jett Psaris and Marlena Lyons=When we have peace inside, NOTHING they do can take it away.

What have you read?

Check out www.marriagebuilders.com if you have time. Love bank, love busters, and other concept. Also several lists, Forms, and Questionnaires Marriage Builders® Forms and Questionnaires there. The more input your H has in rebuilding the M, the happier he will be.

If you want to read what it is like to drift apart read post here > midlifeclub.. Most M's are too far gone to do much.

Still laughing confused2005?

No matter what you do, keep posting here. This is the best, smartest, wisest, most caring, longest lasting/dedicated people site I have found.

Lou