confused2005 First (((((cyber huggs to you))))), but I was serious.

If this OW is really the elephant in the livingroom you think she is, why not have it out with "your H" and her in the C's office. That everyone knows what the real score is in this game of a 3 person marriage or your H not wanting to be married or what ever his position is concerning the M. Sure eliminates alot of guessing.

Do what some of the ladies advised about taking care of your self. I am getting to be too much of a bean counter ( trying to take some of the emotions out of making decisions ) for my own good sometimes.

I saw a program on TV once concerning what a girl should do if a biy ask for sex on a date. The C said for the girl to call her dad and say "BF wants to ask you a guestion about sex". The C said most boys won't talk to the dad/mom and will knock off the grabby stuff. Kind of goes back to what is implied, the elephant no one wants to get real with and have an honest discussion.

I was hoping your H would quit talking to the OW if you invited her to the C session. If she actually came, she might see how attached you two are or see how much damage her talking to your H has done to the M. Then again you might see her side of the story and she is in a position similar to the one you are in. Anyway, OW is damaging your M, that is for sure.

But glad I made you laugh. I never thought it would. I even thought you might reply "O grose".

I would take my own advice if BB has an OM, but I am to the point of " is this ever going to be the way I want the R to be"?

Lou