Confused,

I'm sorry...but you asked him what exactly? If he wants this M to work or if he's cut off contact with the OW?

Lovingly tell him that you want this M to work, and that you are willing to do what it takes to make it work...but that as long as the OW is in the picture you two cannot move forward. Three people in a R is simply too many...and the fact of the matter is that is what you have right now. You have every right to tell him that he may view her as having nothing to do with your problems (and that's complete BS) but YOU do.

An important thing to try to keep in mind here too is keep your cool...don't blow up. Don't scream and rant and rave...that'll just make you look like a mad woman, and he won't be listening to that. Calmly, bluntly....state your needs/goals/boundaries for your M. Remind him that you still love him and want to move forward, but as long as the OW is anywhere in the picture...that will not happen. Then it's HIS choice.

Go read CSW's threads...he was in a similar situation to yours (only flip-flopped) he portrayed a great man-o-steele...read his posts, it's time for you to be the woman-o-steele in your M, if you want to save it.

GEL


Well behaved women rarely ever make history!