Ok...lunches were just a thought if doable. Just out of curiosity how did you hear the rumor that he'd been having an affair for possibly a year? Was it from the annonymous phone call or from someone directly?
His moodyness may possibly be coming from the mere fact that he isn't contacting this OW anymore, that is always possible....so don't be surprised if he starts blaming you for things either, small things...insignificant things. I'm only guessing here, but it would seem reasonable to me that if he isn't in contact with her...that he may be missing that contact, and well....you would be the reason he's missing that contact with her...therefore he might form resentment towards you on that end.
Don't despair, these are things that can be worked on in your therapists office. Things can and most likely will get better for you.
I received a phone call on Friday at home. I swear I was home for no more that 15 min and got this call. My H. knew exactly what it was. apparently someone in their office has it in for this OW..like I care at this point. So that is who they think it is. I have actually called and spoken to the OW twice now and our last conversation on Friday I told her that she needs to stay out of our lives.
I really hope that things get better because I feel like I am really going to loose it.
And....what did the OW say when you talked w/her? I'm not surprised that they would say someone had it out for one of them...it's unlikely that's the case, but you already know that. It's a convenient excuse however because it would be very hard for you to verify. I would find it more likely that...her EXH to be wants you informed as to what they are doing.
OK. Tell her. Tell her that you think your H is emotionally attached to her and that you think that attachment is causing problems. Tell her that if she really has any concern for your M, then she should cool the friendship with your H.
Confused...you told her to stop talking with him on Friday and it hasn't stopped? You know this how? Cell phone? Just trying to make sure I'm understanding.
If you know the contact hasn't stopped...then have you confronted your H with that info?
