Quote: I guess it's the time issue, I thought he would be openly receptive to my advances and it has thrown me for a loop that he is being so cool with me. But I know these things are going to take time.
Patience.
He has built up over a year of hurt and rejection. That's not going to change overnight. Or even in a couple of weeks. If you go into this recognizing that you are not going to get an immediate response, keeping in mind that he's been dealing with this for more than a year, I think you'll be better prepared to go for the long term.
If you enter into this *expecting* that he should respond quickly, you're setting yourself up for resentment. Think of it as treatment for a chronic condition rather than as a headache - the medicine and rehab therapy are going to take time, you can't just apply an aspirin to it.
