Even if sharing it with him doesn't encourage him to do the same for you (remember it's not going to be a tit-for-tat most of the time)....he may come to realize that not EVERYTHING you need has to be fullfilled ALL OF THE TIME.
My H had the misperception that everything I told him I needed he had to do on a full-time, everyday, all the time basis. When he told me that I kinda looked at him like "are you nutz naturally or do you work at it?" kind of a way. But it gave me the opportunity to tell him...."you don't have to do all of these all the time, some of these things are very important to me and it would be nice if you'd make an effort to do them frequently.....some of these things aren't as important and you could just do them sometimes." See he had this idea in his head (and no I've never said this to him) that he had to do everything I was telling him...all the time or I wouldn't be happy. He knows he can't do it all, all of the time....so why even try?
Share your list...it might be enlightening to you both.
