Quote: Did you ever make a list of "must haves" " Think I really need" "would be nice" "think ir is normal" "would be nice" "would like to do someday" "icing on the cake" "once every 5 years" and so on? did you ever show it to your H?
That is a good suggestion. I have never laid it out like that. I am sure there are things that I would discover about myself in the process. Could sharing this with H encourage him to do the same for me?
What are your thoughts on him telling me "he's fine" with everything. From a guys POV, does that mean he's not fine and doesn't want to share?
Quote: Make your fantasy list and show it to your H. How about a couple (2) of drinks. Some people become someone else with more alcohol. If you think it will never happen that is a problem too. It might happen in a scalled down version. Would that be OK with you?
That made me laugh a little 'cause neither one of us really drinks, 2 drinks would probablly get us drunk. As a matter of fact, he becomes a lot more affectionate when the "edge" is taken off. I will share my thoughts with him and see where it goes. I am open to and will appreciate any effort on his part, even if it's not my ultimate fantasy.
I did change my screen name...couldn't remember that silly password! Wrote this one down!! Thanks for finding my previous posts!
Nicki
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
