Thank you so much for responding!!! After being yelled at for a few days and being called every single name in the book, I have kept my cell phone off and am giving him his much needed space. He will be here in a little over 2 weeks to visit the children. I will be D-busting my ass off, I want to leave him with such a good memory so he has something to think about when he leaves. I have asked him however if we can not discuss the D or any R issues. This time is for the kids. I also told him that if he is so desperate to get a D then he should do it in CA. There is no point in starting the legal stuff in NH and then moving to CA. I also will not sign anything until he gets a job, or I will be without child support, alimony, etc. He can file for a legal separation in CA, and then after he is a resident for 6 months he can file for a divorce. The funny thing is that today he has left me 2 really nice voice mails, but I have not responded. He says one thing, like" I hate you and the sooner you are out of life the better" and then calls me to tell me he was thinking about me. I do not want to be baited into a fight, I am finally starting to get a little bit of my control back and I will not give him the satisfaction of justifying his choices by my reactions.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
