You know there is another possibility. I am projecting here but maybe......Your H's "friend" is just using that as excuse. In other words, often times we will use excuses that are convenient. She may be telling H that she might want to stop seeing him because of being afraid. That sounds pretty good and be a great way for her to break it off if she is leaning or even slightly leaning that way. Don't forget, there are so many dynamics going on in the skulls of the OP. If she is not digging the R with your WAS...she just might see an out so she doesn't have to say, "oops, I made a mistake...I know you upended your life for me...but I changed my mind". People don't want to do that but they will make up an excuse so they are not the bad guy...like....I'm afraid of your spouse coming after me.
It's a possibility. Just projecting...because I've done that in a previous life
