How long did your MLC last? What made you snap out of it? I am coping, and working on me, have had a few babysteps this week in communication with H...yay me!! He even called me yesterday, and I just listened, kept my mouth shut, did not defend myself and honestly had a really pleasant conversation with him. He actually was sharing his feelings about things and I just listened, and made sure he knew I was listening. I did not try to correct his opinions or his "logic ". He sent me a text last night, and said he bought be a little gift. He actually got me something!!!!And he actually went out and bought the kids some stuff too and will be mailing us a box today. Up until now he has not really had much part of the family other then occasional phone calls and emails to the kids. The past 7 or so weeks that he has been away, he seemed to have been really detaching himself more and more. I have been giving him his space and letting him initiate the calls, emails, texts, etc. I have stopped asking questions. Yes it is so fricking hard!!!!! But the funny part is when I stop asking he gives information, if I ask, he says it is none of my business.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
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