Quote: I've heard it said many times on here that "I wouldn't take him/her back as they currently are", but to love unconditionally is to accept him/her for how they are and have no expectations that they will change for the better to suit you or anyone else. So you do need to ask..."is this what I want?"
I couldn't state this any better, Wes. You really hit the nail on the head.
I believe that it is when we get to this point we have actually done some growth. There is nothing wrong with allowing the scales to fall from our eyes and take a good hard look at reality, all of it, including ourselves. Until we reach this point, it is difficult to move forward.
This describes where I was at with SO. I was seeing him, and us, and myself, in a more realistic light. And when this happened, I was able to come to the understanding that it was still within my ability to live a happy and productive life, with or w/out SO.
So I agree. This is a question we must all be willing to ask.
