Quote: I'm sure your XW is miserable for lots of different reasons, and none of it has anything to do with you! Isn't that a wonderful feeling?
I really have to hold onto this as a personal mantra. Her misery is not my misery. Or s/t like that. She continues to twist things that I say to be condescending, manipulative, etc... all to maintain some level of victimhood or is she still justifying the D? Regardless, it usually throws me for a loop, cause we may have just had a laughing, fun convo with a friendly g'bye, and she'll call or email a mutual friend to complain about me, say how glad she is to be rid of the M, etc...
According to FF, she's considering dating this unemployed somewhat unattractive guy, after being burned earlier by a younger, more attractive one. I already know that neither is comparable to me, yet I feel for her. Is she really that low in self-worth? Can loneliness be bought off that cheaply?
I've added to my achille's heels - one for each foot : 1) Thinking carefully before bringing up a touchy subject like S6; 2)Sleep. I am so much better at DBing when rested. Got 6 hrs last night and feel great, but I have a big sleep debt to recoup. No more game-playing. I'm taking care of my inner child by having my adult self set a lights out time much earlier than its been.
Martha, I need to reread M/V. I have LostinLimbo in town, and she helps immensely with local DB coaching. I really hope I can post about my post-recon side someday.... Thanks for returning to let us see it from your angle.
