Gabe, I didn't know DB, I didn't work on myself, and I didn't try very hard to get along with my first XW. So our interactions are cordial for the most part, but when something doesn't go her way she still feels like she has some right to call up and b*tch at me about it. In that way it's similar. Even years after divorce she would still throw out an occasional "You haven't changed" or "Now I know why I divorced you". Funny thing is that I'm happily divorced from her, but by her comments it seems as though she actually must have at least considered me changed or maybe regretted divorce if she needs a fight as a reminder. Oh well, I would never even consider getting back together with her, which is what worries me about my present situation. Suppose my 2nd XW feels the same way? Her actions don't say that, but maybe she's just a nice person? Or maybe she really only wants to be friends?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
