Quote: she would make some remark about why I have been doing a poor job taking care of x, y, or z. I immediately react to this by not wanting to touch her, not wanting to be close, etc.
Hd what 180 have you tried in this situation? she knows a leads to b. Change your reaction. Instead of reasoning with her, try very strongly forcefully saying something along the lines of that is not true, I won't listen to that, knock it off something like that. Then roll over and cuddle with her. Mrs. NOP has been saying some great things about respect and not taking crap. Kindness, understanding, rational reasoning hasnt been working, so try something counter intuitive.
I dont mean be a physco wife-beater, but time to demand some respect with your actions and maybe let some strength show by not allowing certain converstaions or by saying NO. If its not true say so. Immediately, strongly. Without explaining.
I don't condone beating women, but I do understand it. BA-DUM.
