Quote: But the more I think about it, the more upset I am getting. I’m trying to figure out the nuances of why I’m angry.
Because it was rude, smug, condescending and offensive.
Frankly, that's as far as I would go about pondering why it would make me angry. To do more, IMO, is a form of giving creedance to what she said.
It's that r e s p e c t thing again.
It was an insulting dig discounting the legitimacy of your needs and negating your positive contributions to your relationship.
A simple, calmly stated, "I found what you said to be rude and offensive" during the MC appointment tomorrow might get you further than trying to explain your desires for sex and whether or not you are a slob.
You have no *mechanism* for discussion or negotiation within your marriage when one spouse finds it acceptible to make disparaging, disrespectful comments. Trying to solve marital problems with broken respectful boundaries is like trying to plan a drive when your car is broken. There is no *vehicle* to get from here to there.
