Listen carefully to HP. Passionately stated but dead on. I LOVED the movie. I loved the Fockers. Actually, I had hoped that my H (who also liked the movie) would catch that part about how Barbara's character helped the other couples marriage. He found it cute. He found it funny. He saw absolutely no message in it for him or anyone else.
Mrs. HD is reaching. The part that is unfair is that in her reaching to justify her position she has to take away some lighthearted fun for you. This is the part that is harder on you HDH's I think. Many of the LDW's on this board seem more humorless than the LDH's. That is tough. No sex and no fun either.
You are entitled to like the movie. You are even entitled to wish to live like the Fockers. You don't have think exactly like Mrs. HD to be married to her, to respect her, to love her. You are ok just as you are :]
