I'd like to make a comment on trust. Trust can make you lazy in a M. That's my experience. If you TRUST the person will not leave, if you TRUST that the personal will put up with all BS, etc, the whole idea of trust as a positive in a M can quickly turn to a negative. I was not surprised, GEL, to hear you say your H made improvements when you told him you did not trust that he would. I think people work harder on R when the trust needs to be built. I can certainly relate to that with my H leaving and my R with OM. Both of us have huge trust issues but that is fueling the fire to rebuild. In that sense, lack of trust can be a good thing to a M.
