Lil- The problems are a work in progress but the difference is that they are ALL on the table now and we do not AVOID them. Before, we pretended everything was just fine and then the bomb dropped. I've talked in other posts about us needing to both GAL, that was a huge one. We are doing that and now that issue is being addressed. Conflict avoidancebeing addressed, expression of emotions, especially negative emotions, is being addressed. I never really felt like H and I were comfortable really letting it all hang out so to speak. We didn't communicate any of our true feelings. Before I would never have dreamed of sharing my feelings of despair regarding my urge to experience passion with another person. Now, I have spilled my guts on this topic and he KNOWS. That alone is golden. I don't feel like there are any secrets. We see each other with warts and all now. That has created incredible intimacy that has spilled over into our sex life. Anything else you want answered Lil? I'll be happy to oblige.
