Amen to the band aids. I used to do all kinds of silly things like give H "sex coupons" or invite him for a bath "a deux". He never redeemed the coupons and is "too big" to share a bath with me. Those kind of things expose the insecurities and make it worse. Not better.
Vacations seem to be the only thing that makes it better. When H relaxes he is better. When H plays, he feels playful. How can we put more play in our lives? Hhmmm...I don't know.
