hey K
spent some time looking at the details of your thread,
had some ideas wanted to make sure they hadn't been covered here.
You and your H sound REALLY active. 4 kids from college to baby. Careers, etc. Your H trains for triathalons..... I did this from 17-21 when I moved to Alaska. Too chilly. it takes butt loads of time.
Mrs. NOP's ideas in the beginnging were excellent.
I wanted to talk about the scheduling and 15 hours/wk for just you two, and extracurricular activities.
you may have seen this demonstration or heard it before.
If you take a bowl and FILL it up with rice(non important stuff) and then try to put eggs(important stuff) on top
they arent going to fit and if there is a bump.... oops they get knocked off and you made a mess.
But if you put the eggs in first.... church, family, cheer practice, tutoring, triathalon training (?)lol, 15 hrs/wk, ML, you can pour almost all of the rice on top. It all fits if you put the important stuff in first.
You mentioned some good things about tonality and non pressure approach to asking for what you wanted.
When you are up too it, time to implement this new/remembered information. You also mentioned how your H takes care of the details when it is something he likes, he doesnt assume you dont want to do it, because you didnt take care of the details. He isnt a cheerleader, thats not his personality... something he needs to work on probably, but not something you should take personal. Take a lesson, take care of the details when it comes to something you want to do together.
I didn't want to drag an unwilling partner there like I often have into my bed assume he wants to, even if he mumbles, or acts negative. Its good for you, forcing you to work on a insecurity, good for the R. ignore and plow ahead. Assume the positive, if he didnt want to be there, or do things with you, he wouldnt, he is 'self-centered' remember?
scheduled time together and scheduled sex arent 'fun' at first, but they do become great.
can you participate with your H in some way with the Tri. traning? ride a bike along while he is running? I dont know how pro he is, did you say Olympic hopefull somewhere, you probably couldnt then.... Fitness is obviously very important to him... is it important to you? can you join him some way?
I am guessing he swims in a pool, most do for training, can you join him there? you obviously dont have to keep up, but I see a lot of all around positives for you if you were able to join him in that part of it.
Oh yeah, what exactly is his religious issue, has he verballized it, are you assuming?, have you scripturally countered?
