Karen, I'm not saying that you or I need to be the boss and force our partners to grow up, but I am saying that accepting the situation isn't going to work for me. It's just going to lead to resentment, or worse than that, apathy. And yes, I need to grow, too. Isn't life just an extended opportunity to keep growing?

Keep on plugging away, karen. What else have you got to do?

Hairdog