GEL: all levity aside, I think you're absolutely right. There are core things in our partner that just aren't going to change. I'm coming to terms with some of that with my bf... I don't know if the sex stuff will ever change, but he is so good in other areas, and especially since he started therapy, he has become so kind and sensitive-- it's mind-boggling. He said that sweet guy was in there hiding all along. The good qualities he has are all wrapped up with who he is, and I'm possibly on the verge of falling in love with him.
ZB- is there a sweet lady hiding inside your W? Why did you fall in love with her? What did you see in her back then?
