Quote: I keep hoping she has dreams beyond owning a four-bedroom house. /quote] That is a nesting instinct. Birds have it. Some male birds build a nest and the female bird chooses her mate for the season based on the nest she selects. Maybe your W and her flying is similar to a female bird's instincts? male weaverbird’s> The rigours of making a nest< clich here to read the story.
Good to hear you guys slept together. I know the feelings of sleeping alone. I did it off and on for 5 years mostly because BB is a light sleeper and I snored. I remidied the snoring about a year ago but we still sleep in seperat rooms sometimes.
BB has her pets, hot flashes, and likes the radio on most of the night. Your W has the kids. Different situations but many of the same bad feelings.
Paul, what has done the most good is to be fair and don't be afraid of confronting BS when you know something is BS. Difficult to see the BS sometimes, I know. Gently but firmly at first and you might keep making progress.
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