It's not surprising your drive is very low right now. You certainly are getting shot down enough
That was the same pattern in my M, pursue, get shot down, repress sex drive to avoid more sexual arguments. The thing is that repression comes out in the relationship in other ways - resentments, passive-aggressive behavior, etc. It just makes matters so much worse. It really is a vicious cycle and so hard to break. Detachment is often the only way to go if the other person is unwilling to address the issues. Sorry you are dealing with this Hairdog. Hope things get better soon.
