I do understand how you feel on that point. However, even those of us who aren't going anywhere for religious, personal or family reasons have our limits. The fact is that no one can know for certain that their spouse isn't going anywhere. Don't kid yourself folks. I would bet my bottom dollar that my ex thought I would NEVER go anywhere. He was sure that he had mentally kicked me around to the point where I couldn't. Guess what he WAS WRONG!
H and I had a nice dinner out after a long day of working in the house. H and I also had the beginnings of a productive discussion I think. I said something to H about the fact that I get frustrated when we have long lay offs in our SL. He said that he doesn't get so much physically frustrated as emotionally frustrated. He expressed the desire to work on keeping our committments to some reasonable amount in the near future so that we can have a life together. Caveat here - what is "reasonable" to H is more than most people can handle. I was suprised that H found the layoffs frustrating in any sense. He doesn't ever say it. I wonder if that is because he doesn't want to "complain" about something that "can't be helped." That is honestly the feeling I get. The good part is that the door is open, "the talk" is in a good place rather than a bad one and we are having a nice weekend together.
