GEL - you have come a long way since I first arrived on this board. So has HP. I am quickly following behind. I simply must communicate more clearly with H. I simply must stop hiding from confrontation. My first M left me with a lot of scars about confrontation and a lot of fears about both staying and leaving. Like HP, I'm not leaving. At least not bodily but staying can be good or it can be crappy. That really is not my choice alone. H gets some say so in it. Once, when we were dating H said I won't always be able to give you everything you want but I will always try to give you what you need. Time to ante up because this M is not only falling short of what I want but also what I need. It isn't enough for "us" to be an afterthought. Our life together isn't the icing on a stale cake.
