It's taken me saying some pretty drastic things to my LDH to get him to wake up too guys. I did have to start talking about the inevitability of the big "D" and the fact that I won't stay in this situation if it doesn't change.
My telling him that so clearly over the last month seems to have struck a chorde...at least to the point that he's trying to open up more in counseling, it's more than he'd been doing. And it's been happening more so since I made my position REALLLLLLY clear to him.
I'm coming to the conclusion that we as the HD spouses simply don't put your proverbial foot down hard enough, clearly enough.
Honeypot...telling your H you don't love him anymore...that's an eye-opener for him.
IMPO it's much like me telling my H. H...if you don't do something I WILL LEAVE, YOU WILL LOSE WHAT YOU HAVE HERE. I AM STRONG ENOUGH TO DO THIS ON MY OWN, I CAN DO IT ON MY OWN, I WILL DO IT ON MY OWN IF I HAVE TO...IT'S UP TO YOU TO DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT THE OUTCOME TO BE....YOU CAN CHANGE THIS. Sorry guys, wasn't really yelling...just speaking emphatically LOL.
I'm learning that if I really want him to take me seriously...I have to speak very seriously about it. This is important to me so I need to be willing to put the weight behind my words to show how serious I am. But this is something I'm willing to do. Heck, I'm willing to smack my H upside the head with a 2x4 if I have to, if it means it will save my M.
