OMG - I don't know how to take a statement like. "I was initially rocked by the idea that my wife had fallen out of love with me but as long as she doesn't leave I can deal with this arrangement." I hope he finds it harder than he thinks. Or did I (I hope) misinterpret the spirit of what he was saying.
I mean. Sometimes I am convinced that my H settles for a lackluster SL, lackluster intimacy etc...because anything else just feels unsafe somewhow. Cause what if he really invested in me, really "let himself go" in the R and then it turned out that I left, or lied or wasn't who I represented myself to be.
Just some thoughts about my sitch but I was reflecting on why mediocrity like that would be ok with Mr. HP.
