This caught my attention (but if it turns out to be just me and my efforts there in the budoir - it won't happen).
I can certainly understand this. I distinctly remember one evening that my H said we'd ML...and I ended up being the only one actively doing anything...he was pretty much just laying there like a bump on a log. So....I stopped, got off of him and said "I'm not doing this, this isn't worth it." That got his attention big time, I've never stopped like that and just got up, put on my robe and refused to go on. So naturally he asked me what was wrong. I explained that he wasn't even participating....yes, he was there...but doing NOTHING, he was leaving everything up to me. I asked him...."how gratifying do you think that is for me? How do you think it makes me feel to have you just lay there and make no effort whatsoever? I'd rather not have sex at all if that's what you're going to do...I don't need that." Ever since I did that he has at least made an effort to actually participate when we ML, which makes a big difference for both of us.
