Karen,
SO well said, my sister.

Sometimes I wish H would concentrate less on the squeezy bits and more on my brain, when in foreplay.

I would love to hear some of his sexy thoughts and moments during foreplay--after all, this is the only time he feels comfortable letting that side of his personality out to play.

IOW, if he'd share more of himself during sex, I would arouse instantly.
Cine shared with us that she used to hold herself back, remove herself from the sexual equation, and think that offering the use of her body was enough. Sometimes it seems that he is doing this.