Quote: H resists that like poison. He wants to be "spontaneous." I pointed out to him that "spontaneity" gets us sex every two to four weeks (sometimes six) and dinner together once every couple of months. He just says he'll "try harder." And then he does. For a few weeks.
Anything of import is worth having time made for it.
While we can spontaneously decide to worship God, we also schedule in that church attendance thing.
While we can spontaneously start a new project at work, we still put in our 40 or so hours a week.
We can spontaneously visit our friends, but they won't be friends if we never plan to spend time with them.
We can spontaneously have a snack anytime, but meals have to be planned for.
While single, we can spontaneously ask someone out for a date, but once there is a steady relationship, just spontaneously dropping by on Saturday while never calling beforehand is most likely going to kill the relationship.
F*ck try harder.
Plan better.
You've tried it the spontaneous way and it hasn't worked well.
Time for another plan.
It might not work well. But you won't know until it has been implemented for a time long enough to make a determination.
