I do want to clarify one thing though. During our dinner out we happened to be eating at the restaurant we had our first date in and I hadn't been back since (H has been there for business lunch) so I brought up "us" in the context of nostalgia not in the context of discussing big R stuff.
I am glad that you understand where I am coming from. I have gotten feedback in the past that people think I am trying to "script" H so we can have a romance novel perfect exchange. It isn't that. It is that there are innumberable responses that might make me feel like I mattered at all and yet none come out of H's mouth.
Yes, I waited to hear H say that he would be free on Tuesday nights for six weeks so that I could register us for the dance class. Probably shouldn't have. OTOH - I didn't want to drag an unwilling partner there like I often have into my bed. KWIM?
Yes - resentment does eventually lead to disconnect. I am struggling now to decide what the least painful option is. Disconnect and lead my own life side by side with H in a parallel universe OR bring up the R YET AGAIN and proceed to torture H with discussions where he feels like he failed.
