Right you are. I have that book. I thought it had great points. I too am a little burned out on the bibliotherapy lately.
John,
How sad. I understand how you can get where you are with things. I am getting to the point where I am starting to mentally strategize how I can make myself as busy as I can in the evenings to avoid interaction with H. Why? Cause it matters little what I do one way or the other. I am getting more and more to the point where I feel that I don't cause our downturns nor our upturns. Nothing I do or say has any substantial impact for any substantial length of time. When I am making every effort we might communicate better and H is often happier because I am busting my @ss to speak his LL. Things around the house are pleasant. When I am not making much of an effort things aren't bad they are just kind of sad and quiet. The problem is that then it all degenerates into me getting snappy with everyone because I am a flesh and blood woman with actual feelings and I really do love H and I really do want to meet his needs and I really do want my needs met too. They ought to call the book the "Conundrum of a Sex Starved Marriage."
