I don't see very many names on this board now that I recognise, which I hope is a good thing because they've found their endeavours to be successful
I was quite a frequent poster on these boards for a while, and found them to be a lifeline, and I have no doubt at all that if I hadn't come here, I'd have been in a very different place today...
First of all, I must explain my sitch: I'm not married (yet!)- my problems were with my long term BF. He split up with me after about 10 years, citing "space" as his main reason for doing so. Both of us were battling with depression, although we didn't realise it at the time.
Of course I followed the predictable pattern of being clingy, needy and calling him all the time. He still saw me at weekends, but it was always a tearful affair, and eventually that stopped. Then he stopped answering my calls, and so it went on, with me getting deeper and deeper into the pit over a period of about 3 years.
Then I found this place after a desperate trawl of the web, and I started becoming me again. The other day I found a thick notebook full of things I'd quoted from this site, inspirational paragraphs (and sometimes entire threads!) I'd written/printed out, and I thought of just how much I'd grown and learned throughout my time here.
Anyway, I eventually decided I was strong enough to contact my BF after months of sparse e-mail contact and tell him it was OK - I'd moved on. It was finally over.
The very next day I found a mail from him in my inbox, which I didn't reply to for a week. I even felt that was quite easy, thanks to my time here. Then I did send a mail, strictly friendly, and within 10 mins I had 2 back from him!
This was last July, and to cut a long story short, we've been closer and more in love than we've ever felt over his past year He's a gentle, loving and attentive man now, who respects me and looks after me in every way. Every day I'm astounded by him.
We've been talking about marriage and kids, and he saw a mortgage advisor the other week to find out how much he could afford to spend on a new house
The one thing I want more than anything now is to be with him full time (we still live apart). So that is what I'm working on now
I just wanted to come here and let anyone who remembers me know how things have worked out for me, and maybe I can help someone else in the same way that so many brilliant peopple here helped me when I thought there was no help to be had.
Thank you all very much Mel
It's time to live, it's time to love, it's time to do what's afraid of
It's time to breathe, time to relieve, it's time to shine
