I always appreciate the empathy.. although I wish we werent both in such a place right now!
I'm finding myself in the place where I see that I'm half of the prob, but not sure how to fix my half except to be me and stay out of the R talks! Really,, we can't do that right now because we don't have enough trust and understanding between us.
H is making progress on his goals. Baby steps, huh? I'm hoping so. I know this will be a long long road for us if we make it. I wanna hurry it up, but I just can't. Before the bomb we had started a financial management plan. He said he didnt know anything about managing money and wanted me to teach him and come up with a long range and short range plan for us. I put a lot of hours into it and he seemed excited to get started. Then all h&ll broke loose and it went down the drain. Well, tonight he got out some paper and started drafting a budget. I'm still not feeling well and didnt say anything. He did a good job. It's the first time he's seemed concerned where our money goes and how he thinks we should be spending it. He also called about refereeing basketball. Its something he loves to do, and can make some extra money doing too. So, he's moving towards his goals, and that's good. He's basically done everything around here the last week (which I hate!), but he's done it without complaining or being highly stressed. He even folded the laundry and put it all away this afternoon. He's done the shopping, paid the bills, picked up S5 when he was sick at school, cooked dinner.. just been very supportive and caring. And, he's not acting clingy and needy. I think he's turned a corner. Let's hope I turn it with him and keep recognizing the positives.
I have an appt for a stress test tomm. Thanks for hoping me to feel better!
