I wanted to say hello because I haven't been on much lately. God, can we be in more similar places? My big mouth and/or everchanging moods also got me into hot water this weekend.
I've reached a breaking point with my H regarding finding new work as well. I ahve my own issues with my job and I was totally fixating on them this weekend. But my controlling mind likes to find as many ways as possible to include other's problems when I am supposedly working on my own! So, I got into several discussions this weekend about my H's job seeking. I asked H if he had placed a time limit on finding work before he changed his approach like going to a job coach. He said "sure, I was thinking that if by next year I haven't gotten anything new I would check out a job coach." I'm like, next year?! Does that mean I have to spend yet another year with you complaining about how much you hate working at your job?!!
So like you, I have no idea where to go with any of this.
I don't have any advice but I do have ALOT of empathy. Check out my thread when you get a chance for more info.
Regarding your chest pains it sounds like it could be an anxiety or panic attack. I used to get them so bad that my throat would close up. Alot of the symptoms you listed sound the same.
Good for your son! Maybe it will help things sink in with H if it's not just you working on things.
