Matter of fact, I want what W and Om have (or at least had, who knows what they've got now?). /color] Nahhh.. you can do WAY better than that! You've had way better. What they have is an illusion We've had the comfortable.. they have the icing on the cake. What we want is the whole dang cake, a scoop of ice cream, chocolate sprinkles, and a big juicy cherry on top!

I can't remember; is H in IC? If he's as insecure as he claims to be it seems that's something he could really use a hand with. People who don't think much of themselves don't expect much of themselves either, which makes it easier to screw up. Yes he is, but only monthly unfortunately. He's trying to get in more often so maybe that'll work out for him. Gosh.. I've heard that before about low expectations of oneself because you are insecure. Bud.. do you think there is anything that another person can do to help boost their S's self esteem? Do I praise him a lot? I mean.. H is a good guy.. he's a sweetheart, he's smart, he's a hardworker (he says he's lazy), he's compassionate and funny. Sigh.. I know I can't change him, but how can I help? without trying to rescue.

It's scary, but I'm slowly coming back around to the idea that we have to work on making ourselves great and hoping our spouses get it together enough to want to stick with us and to be capable of it. But if we slow down in hopes they'll keep up, it just cracks our PMA and adds stress to a tense sitch. Better to at least be happy with how we're handling our own lives...it's so much emotional work to worry about how they're handling theirs. Of course you are right and put it so perfectly. You have a way of saying something that helps me to see something clearer than before you arrived and shined your light on it!!

Have a good PMA story from this morning. The potato chip guy at Walmart flirted with me this AM. I've been wound up like a top all day...haha. Seriously, today is the closest I've been to being back to myself since a year ago July. I hope that means I'm letting go!

As always.. thanks for stopping by and sharing your insight. It means the world to me!!