Came back to say that I'm not suggesting that you tell you're W she should move out or anything of the sort. And to acknowledge that the last couple of weeks have helped her see you in a different light and feel comfortable with you. She sees all of that, but still doesn't have to deal with reality. So, I was just suggesting that you accept her reality, and stop trying to ONLY show her that things can be great with you and that you've changed, but also let her see how her "reality" is flawed by accepting it and allowing her to deal with the outcome when she moves forward with what she says she wants.
She gets to push you away and jerk you around with her plans with OM and thoughts of how things will be, but never has to deal with the consequences of them. Can you ease her that way just enough to give her a taste of what she is saying she wants to do?
