And I mainly just wanted an opportunity to say Sheila, you rule like a big, slobberin' dawg.
Awwww BB, you're such a sweet talker.. thanks!!!

BTW I didn't get around to telling you at the time, but in my thread I loved how you described W and OM as having a "playmate relationship". That really crystallized it for me. Thanks.
 If you find anything useful in my ramblings, then you're definately welcome! Every time I think of your sitch.. I just can't imagine your W being serious about the R with OM at all... more like he's an escape or an excuse. And I was gonna post a reply on your thread, but wanted to think it through first.. does it seem like she's comparing her R with OM to the R with you at all? Got the impression from the last post, but havent had time to go back and re-read. If she is.. oh boy.. wonder if she's at the "lesser of two evils" comparison. If she is.. you might make more progress, faster than you even want to. Almost like she knows being alone isnt an option, has taken advantage of your patience long enough, and getting sick of the battle anyway. Maybe her psyche is getting eager for life to return to normal? Speculation as usual from me. BUT, I did go through something like this when H and I divorced, and you got it - he was the lesser of two evils.. I knew I wouldnt be alone, but knew he had hung out there waiting long enough. It forced me to choose between the new life I was building (gosh that life seemed so exciting until I started living it!) and him. Sped up my willingness to work things through with him by months I'd say... the ending to the other R. Even though I ended it, I still wasnt ready to live on my own and raise my kids alone. That and I do love H.. I was fighting it with everything I had.

Thanks for visiting Stay tuned for the latest storm after the calm.. ugh