Just had sorta a revelation. I've been feeling bad this morning for not helping H and instead being critical of him. Well, I shouldnt be critical of him like that, but maybe yesterday wasn't so bad. I did do something.. I sat back and did nothing. Allowed H to have his moods and didnt confront him about how snippy he was with us.. I just kept up the positive communication and helped get us out of the house and to church as smoothly as possible. Then I allowed him to figure out what we needed last night to change the dynamics of our day. Instead of initiating an R discussion about how hard he makes the afternoons, I came in here and vented. Obviously that quiet time allowed him to re-group enough to decide he'd do something about how stressed we were. My passive H did something for our R without me asking him or telling him to do it! Yay H!!!! So, I just told him how much I appreciated that he was there for me last night and helped me to relax and get rid of my headache. I also asked if there's anything that I can do in the afternoons when he's stressing to relieve his burden. He said "no".. the boys were wild and Brooke was acting snotty. And you did help because you let me be close to you last night. Then he said.. it's only going to get better. The boys are getting older and wont be such handfulls forever. Dangit.. I don't have to fix everything. What am I gonna do with all this time on my hands?
