I am right there with you! My H is also looking for a new job. He had an EA with a co-worker and it drives me insane that they have daily contact with each other. There are a lot of positives in my sitch but I'm having a really hard time moving past this issue of H and OW working together for a number of reasons.
Something that I came to recently is that regardless if my H and OW work togther, the issue of their "friendship" and its impact upon my M will only be resolved on its own terms. Regardless if H and OW are co-workers or not, the issue will take time. However, I want her gone now. I hate this person and the fact that she is in my H's life at all makes me very angry and kind of sad too.
I would be happy to help you by offering support and checking in. Feel free to check out my thread on this forum. It's under help with depressed spouse.
