Good for you for not being bossy! Your story about the napkin is pretty funny in a backwards sort of way. Try not to allow your imagination free reign.

I've thought a lot about the decision your husband has to make concerning his job. I believe he needs to know from you whether or not you could handle him staying in this job with the OW still there. What if he didn't take this far away job with no benefits? Can you project how you would feel? I can see the benefit issue weighing heavily on him. That's what has my H all in a tizzy over possibly being fired (he's upped a notch from being laid off). He worries constantly about not having insurance.

Could you live with that decision if your H continued to search for another position?

married 6 years, mom of 2 struggling to make a strong family